Six Marks of a Real Friend
Loneliness is rampant in our society. It’s the number one emotional problem. The top best selling book of this century, next to the Bible, has been How to Win Friends and Influence People. Everybody wants friends. Everybody needs friends. It’s part of God’s plan for your life. You look through the Bible and you find that David had Jonathan. Paul had Barnabus and Jesus had the disciples. God wants you to have positive friendships because 1Corinthians 15:33 states, “Bad company corrupts good morals.” The Bible teaches very clearly that the way to have good friends is this: The type of friend I am is the type of friend I will attract. In the book of Proverbs there are six marks of a real friend. If you build these into your life, then you’ll attract these kind of people in your life.
- I must be committed to that person as a friend.
- I must be considerate. I must care about their needs, their values, their interests,their hurts. I must be forgiving.
- I must be confidential. You’ve got to learn to keep a secret if you’re going to be a friend.
- I must be candid. I must be able to speak frankly and openly and honestly with my friends and tell them the truth even when it hurts.
- I must be constructive. I must build people up rather than tear them down.
- I must be consistent, loyal, dependable, reliable.
John 15:15-16 “No longer do I call you slaves, for the slave does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all things that I have heard from My Father I have made known to you “You did not choose Me but I chose you...” All born again believers are now friends of God thanks to Jesus.