Are You a Perfectionist

Sunday, June 18, 2017

 

 

Have you ever received a notice in the mail from your bank that read, “Your account has been overdrawn, due to insufficient funds?” Or have you ever been embarrassed trying to use your credit card that was over its limit? Like overdrawn checking accounts and over the limit credit cards, many people have reached their limit emotionally and are feeling insufficient in one area or another.

There are many reasons why so many people feel insufficient. One reason is, they are perfectionists. One of the reasons why some are perfectionists can be linked to the way in which they were reared. For example, if your parents were excessively harsh and strict, you are more likely to be a perfectionist. During your childhood your self-worth was damaged and now you view yourself conditionally. If you gained approval and affection from your parents when your behavior was perfect, you feel you can only love yourself if you are perfect.

If you are saved, you have a new Parent, “the Father of mercies and God of all comfort” (2 Corinthians 1:3-4). Who has pity on you when you sin? Our grace account can never be overdrawn because Romans 5:20 says, “Where sin increased, grace abounded all the more.” “Are we to continue in sin that grace might increase? May it never be (Romans 6:1-2)!”

In 1 Corinthians 15:10 Paul wrote, “...By the grace of God I am what I am.” We are what we are, not by being a perfectionist, but by being committed to excellence. A perfectionist will become angry with themselves when they fail, which leads to guilt, depression and diminished self-esteem. A person living by grace can say at the end of the day, “by the grace of God, I did the best I could.”

“Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”